I learned today what trials married people have in life. I never knew how hard it could be to be married and to start a family. We always think marriage is all sunshine and rainbows. Either that or we think that if only they would talk out their problems they would be able to settle their differences. This is not always the case saying doing something is always harder than we think.

In my class today I learned that there are more problems in marriage than we think and we can't always settle them so easily. For instance there were examples in class about how a woman tried to talk out their problems with her husband but he would never respond. Lack of communication skills is a problem with a lot of marriages. Our background and how we grew up affects our marriage life in the future. If we were taught to ignore problems in our family before marriage then we will tend to do what we have the habit to do. Marriage is hard when you are juggling a baby between you. You will both end up feeling withdrawn from each other. I feel like the only way to get through marriage is to have the Lord blessing you through out. We can do all hard things through Christ who strengthens us. 

I learned this week that face to face contact between people while talking is very important. Especially if you are dating or plan to get married to that person. In class we were given many examples of married couples that had different kinds of communication before they were married. One was how a couple had only  used Skype during their earlier relationship. They ended up getting into lots of fights and if I recall correctly even got divorced.

One aspect of communication with each other in person that helps reduce these chances is that you get to see more of the person's character. My teacher explained that you can get to know a lot about a person by their body language. For instance by the way a person walks. You can usually tell if that person is confident or not. While I was learning these concepts what came to mind was a quote from the movie Frozen. In this movie Christoph is exasperated by Anna's choice of marrying a man she just met. He tells her what if you don't like the way he eats or the way he picks his nose and eats it. We should never rush into relationships before we have been in many different situations with that person. Different situations help us to see how they react when something makes them angry or upset.

I learned this with one of my friends. We never really got to spend time with each other much. One day though we had time to do something fun. we had everything planned but something happened to mess with our plans. My friend got so angry and upset that she wouldn't even think about what else we could do. She just left and decided that if our plans were ruined then why bother doing anything else. We don't want to end up marrying someone who has a bad temper or doesn't know how to adjust very well to surprising situations. This is why person to person settings are better equipped for a solid good relationship. 

The most surprising thing I learned in my class today was how some homosexuals become homosexual. My teacher taught us from researches and scientists papers that most homosexuals start out just trying to be accepted by the same sex because they are their peers. Then when they go through puberty and they are still trying to get that acceptance they start to have sexual desires towards them. Homosexuals are not born this way they develop this way by past experiences and environments. We should all try helping them and loving them. They are still our friends and loved ones. They are just going through difficult times right now.

I have now come to view Latino families differently than I recently had. I live in Northern California where many Latinos come to pick fruit. I always respected them for their  ability to work hard at their jobs. We seem to take for granted the fact that they work so hard in our state. They work at the jobs most Caucasians refuse to take. I learned in class that not only are Latinos hard workers they have also went through a lot just to get here. The money it cost to get into the United States legally or illegally is immense. These good people spend all that they have to come here and have a better life for their families. The father usually comes by himself to earn money and get a place for his family to stay. This may seem like nothing but it could take months if not years to do this. By the time the rest of the family arrives it is usually broken apart. Latino families know what it is like to start with nothing and work hard to achieve even a little. I give an applause for their hard work and dedication to their families future.